“When I became paraplegic, all I could say was: this thing happened to me and I couldn’t do anything about it. I was the unfortunate victim of a car accident. That victim had pity on her old self and saw having a disability as an unfortunate turn of events. I even attributed to myself many qualifiers stereotypically associated with being disabled and frail. I believed I was no longer able to achieve my goals and that I could no longer contribute significantly to society. Saying these words made me even more vulnerable and weak. I was stuck in a rut and was not able to get out of my head…”